"I do not feel confident in our relationship succeeding going forward."."I am feeling hurt by many incidents that have occurred throughout our relationship and think it would be best to move on."."I don't think our relationship is healthy for me to continue being a part of and think we should break up."."I am having a difficult time communicating my needs to you, and think it would be best to work on myself.".People move on to new stages of growth throughout their lives, and there's no guarantee that they will always grow together. Remember that sometimes life just gets in the way of even the most well-intentioned relationship, and just because a relationship is ending does not mean that it was a failure. Instead, you may want to explore how your own actions - and the actions of your partner - contributed to the current state of affairs that necessitate breaking up. This is not the same thing as blame - in fact, trying to find some way to blame either yourself or the other person is usually both futile and destructive. "You don't listen anymore!" puts blame on the other person, whereas "I can't seem to communicate with you" takes some personal responsibility. Still, you do want to try to use many "I" statements, because "you" statements can easily come across as being accusatory. While "it's not you, it's me" may be true, it often seems like a cop-out. "In thinking about our future, I don't think we are compatible in the long run."."I don't feel right continuing a relationship that I can't see making it long term."."I am not comfortable staying together knowing that we are on two very different paths."."This relationship isn't fulfilling my needs anymore."."I don't feel the same way about you as I used to.".For example, if your partner is no longer attractive to you, you don't need to say "I think you're ugly." Instead, you can say something that preserves your partner's dignity. Remember that being honest is not an excuse to be cruel. Most of all, if you don't really know why but you just need to break up, explain that as well. If you simply grew apart, tell him/her honestly where you think your values diverged and why they aren't compatible. If it's communication, tell the person where you think it broke down and be honest about it. You probably wouldn't want your partner to lie to you, so be realistic and truthful about why you are breaking up.
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